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Kevin J. Gray

August 3, 1988 ~ November 30, 2021 (age 33)

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Kevin, what a Great Soul! Kevin is humble, kind, loving, generous and if you asked all five of his siblings they’d each tell you  he is their favorite.

Kevin is highly skilled! Kevin will learn something just to prove to himself he’s able to do it. Guitar, piano, yo-yos, video games that were never meant to be played to the end - Kevin’s kept his head down, done his homework, and mastered them all.

Kevin is nothing but trouble! If you turn your back on Kevin you won’t believe how bruised, scraped, cut and mussed he’ll get. But he never complains and maybe even enjoys it!

Above all else, Kevin is kind! He never makes you feel stupid, even when you are, in fact, very stupid. He doesn’t believe there is ever a reason for someone to be embarrassed - maybe that’s why he’s gladly made a fool of himself so often, and always looked so cool while doing it. He is the neutral party, the buffer, the kind ear, the gentle support, the fearless adventurer and the glue that holds his family together. When we need help, or want someone on our side, Kevin is there with quiet strength and an ability to gently tell the truth in a way few people can. 

Kevin’s infinite kindness extends to his career! Kevin’s colleagues universally describe him as a mentor, the person you go to not if you need a problem solved, but someone to teach you how to solve a problem. Endlessly curious, Kevin is always learning something new.  He won't begrudge your ineptitude because he remembers his own.

We’d happily spend an eternity telling you all the things that make Kevin the extraordinary human being he is, but he might die of embarrassment all over again. Unfortunately, as big as Kevin’s heart is, it simply couldn’t keep up with his body’s demands and nothing in the world could get it pumping quite right again.

Kevin is a man of mystery! Example: Kevin has a tattoo of two short lines on his shoulder and never told us exactly what it means (if YOU know what it means, please let us know!). Kevin always leaves you wanting more. He’s doing it right now, in fact! He’s a people person, but he loves his privacy as well - any two people, when discussing Kevin, find out something new about him.

If you have something about Kevin that you might like to share, please send it to Each new story, anecdote and memory is like a little gift to us and we treasure each one as if it gives him back to us for one more day. No matter how mundane or trivial you think it may be, we want to hear it.

And finally, Kevin supported Plan International.   If you feel inclined, donations can be made in his honor at     If you like for us to be made aware of your donation, you can have the donation card mailed to The Gray Family, 3 Chelsea Rd, White Plains NY 10603.  Thank you!

 Visiting at Hawthorne Funeral Home on Sunday, Dec.5,2021 from 4-8 PM. Funeral Mass, Our Lady of Mount Carmel Church, Elmsford, N.Y. on Monday, 10 AM.


21 West Stevens Ave.

Hawthorne, New York 10532


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December 5, 2021

4:00 PM to 8:00 PM
Hawthorne Funeral Home
21 W. Stevens Ave
Hawthorne, NY 10532

Funeral Mass
December 6, 2021

10:00 AM
Our Lady of Mt. Carmel Church (Elmsford)
59 E. Main St.
Elmsford, NY 10523

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